Back a couple of years ago, when my world with Child #3 was imploding, I was told by an HHS worker that nothing was going to change for them. This child would always be handicapped and basically, that I better get over having any hope for anything else. I was devastated.
The thing was, and still is, that I know this child better than anyone else. I carried them inside of me; waited while it took forever for my doctor to decide they could be born (at 39 1/2 weeks for twins!) and watched and taught them from then on. I know them pretty well. So to tell me that the child that grew up in front of my eyes will never be “whole” or “normal” was unbelievable to me. I did, in fact, not believe it.
They had been a very, very smart child, way outpacing their twin at schoolwork and in other ways too. How could this all be over? Trauma. How one parent can _______ with a child so much as to change the entire trajectory of their life. How did I expect Child #3 to manage when their father mistreated them?
After much therapy and searching, I have come upon something that helps. Essential Oils. I know, I know. I never thought I’d be one of those people who touted the helpfulness of essential oils. That was before I met Lydia, who guided me through the basics of what could possibly help Child #3.
As you know, I would do almost anything for my kiddos. They are the only blessings that came out of my abusive marriage. I love them with my whole heart! So, if essential oils could offer Child #3 some relief, then I was willing to give it a go. Anything to help.
I found Lydia through Child #4’s counselor. She had known Lydia for many years and recommended that I talk to her, since I was at a dead end with Child #3 and Child #4 had been contemplating suicide as well. I was lost. Not to mention, I cannot have a job outside of the home, since I have to be there for Child #3 whenever they need me. It is not a pretty scene if I am not and generally ends in cutting, hurting, and suicide attempts. Mmmhmm…I needed help! Young Living offered not just a job of helping people to heal their lives, but also healing for Child #3, 4, 2, and 1, not to mention me.
So, here I am. We have been diffusing “Peace and Calming” oil in our diffuser in the nighttime, which has something to do with healing trauma. I don’t know exactly how it works, but I will tell you that I see a difference. Now, I AM NOT A DOCTOR, so please do not assume that any of this is to be taken in such a vein. If you want to see for yourself, please comment below and let me know how to contact you and I will do so.
Other oils we have tried so far are “Stress Away” which has a lovely, spicy scent that usually has me so in vacation mood that I fall asleep! We’ve also tried Lavender for helping with sleep. Again, I’m passed out cold, whether from the diffuser or exhaustion, I can’t say. I like the lemon oil for a burst of energy; it smells like when we zest lemons for baking. Yum! Also, the “Thieves” oil smells good and when I use it with lotion, it helps my skin.
I did put some “Valor” oil in a key chain holder for Child #3 when they went to high school. I was told that this was the mixture of oils that they put on Roman soldiers before battle. They argued that they weren’t going into battle, and I pointed out that for Child #3, high school is a battle.
It’s a wonderful journey we’ve been on with the oils. I certainly don’t know everything there is to know, but if it helps, I’d do just about anything for my kids. So far, so good!