What on earth am I talking about? Why, forgiveness, of course! How do you find the ability to forgive? Why can’t I just forgive and forget?
Well, for me, as possibly for you too, forgiveness is a process. I used to come down the front steps and hold onto the railing, getting irritated when the bottom left post wobbled. He put that in. Just another reason to be angry at him. (Like I need more!) Now, I choose to say that I forgive him every time it wobbles. Some day I will set some more concrete around the post and fix it, but for now it’s part of my forgiveness protocol.
Are you like me? Are you finding you have to forgive over and over? Have you ever been able to finally finish forgiving someone?
I would like to be finished forgiving, and I have made progress. I know that if I refuse to forgive, I’m only hurting myself, and by extension, my children. The object in need of my forgiveness doesn’t care whether I can forgive him or not. It doesn’t affect him. It only affects us.
I choose to forgive. I choose not to be angry and bitter. I choose to be there for my children. What about you?